Marriages go through various stages, even though some experts believe that the first few years of a marriage are the most critical when the connection is formed to promote love and intimacy, but they may not guarantee a lasting marital relationship. It is staggering when you consider the rising number of mature couples who are filing for divorce decades into their marriages because the values they once shared have shifted completely before their very eyes. Even though love is a wonderful experience, you should never allow your marriage to define you as individual values can change over time with life-changing situations.
Change your approach
The competence you had to navigate your role as a professional, wife, and mum when you were in your 30s may certainly change now that you are older, which can also change your values if you have always put your spouse and family first. Your values may shift if your dedication to everyone else but yourself has left you feeling stressed and unhappy over the years, especially if the situation was fruitless. One of the ways to live a stress-free and fulfilled life is to change your approach to doing things and start to place more value on your happiness and self-care. Marriage is give and take and if you feel you are giving more than you are getting back in return, it is important that you take responsibility for your happiness.
Change your consciousness
Age can also impact your spouse in a positive way; he may decide to take his future into his hands and shift his values on the type of foods he eats going forward to avoid the risk of vascular diseases such as high blood pressure, diabetes, and other underlining health conditions. It is better to maintain a good lifestyle in later life if you missed the opportunity when you were younger as a healthy life can improve the power of love in your marriage. You can also encourage the whole family to follow in his footstep and embrace the healthy eating challenge. A good marriage is one in which each person is looking for ways to improve their life not just for themselves but for each other so that they can give their best to their marriage.
Examine your lifestyle
Some marriages break up later in life due to a lack of honesty and transparency, It is therefore imperative to have honest conversations as a couple when your marital values start to shift due to life-changing situations. Your financial values may change as you become realistic about spending and more optimistic about saving for your retirement. The wife may find it difficult to curb her spending habits in her grey age due to certain obligations that friends and families expect from her at marriage ceremonies, where expensive materials such as “Aso Ebi” have become the invitations to many of such events. This can provoke an honest conversation if the cost of honouring such an invitation is digging a hole in your finances while the values your wife places on socialising and the effect may have to be re-evaluated. It is important to approach such matters with honesty and sincerity of purpose as they can impact the possibility of enjoying a comfortable and fulfilling retirement.
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