Nigerian lady narrates how she stopped cooking for her father and brother in her mother’s absence

A young Nigerian lady has narrated how she rebelled against her family by refusing to cook for her father and brother at home.

Taking to Twitter, the user with the handle @bigbadreni revealed that she stopped cooking for her family after her mother tasked her with the responsibility of looking after her father and brother in her absence.

According to her, her mother got an apartment closer to her workplace for easier commute, leaving her at home with her father and brother.

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During this period, she was occupied with online courses and didn’t cook for the household. This made her father complain to her mother about her refusal to cook.

She recounted that her mother confronted her, asserting that it was her responsibility to assume her role in the house. This confrontation infuriated her, and she completely stopped cooking for the household.

She posted this to criticize the traditional expectations placed on first daughters within a typical Nigerian household.

Read her full post below,

“I started rebelling against this first daughter shit in 2020. My mom got an apartment so she could be closer to work, so I was home with my dad and brother.

She called me one time BC my father complained that I don’t cook, and then she told me that I’m supposed to take her spot when she’s not around. I have never been that confused in my life.

Take your place as how? Na me go marry or what? I was 18 fighting online classes for my life. From that point I just stopped cooking entirely.

I wouldn’t leave my room before 2PM either. All man for himself.

My brother too went to call her that I don’t cook anything, Yen Yen Yen.

At that point I increased pressure. I started buying coke for only me. When my mom came back she taught my brother how to fry plantain, and my father started cooking too.

Now my brother does not need anybody to cook for him, I don’t do that shit either. If you can’t cook, starve.”