“My wife and I never kissed during 10 years of dating, both of us were virgins” – South African man reveals

A South African marriage therapist and relationship expert, Bakhe Dlamini, has revealed that throughout their 10-year dating period, the man and his wife never engaged in any sexual activity.

Dlamini announced on Facebook that he and Nokwanda, a community psychologist and social worker, had met in high school back in 2001 and started a relationship as a way to show people that relationships worked without sex.

According to him, the first time they shared a kiss was when the priest joined them together in marriage.

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He wrote;

“So my wife & I never kissed during 10 years of dating. We met at high school, 2001, were prom mates following year, and we didn’t kiss. First time I kissed her was when the priest said, “You may kiss the bride”, 10 years later, 2 July 2011. Both of us were virgins too.

I had to be clear with her from word go that I respected her body, preferred we don’t even kiss. I believed in being a gentleman, not rushing a woman. I also mentioned to her that I prefer we don’t even kiss because I knew that the moment we kissed, we’d fall into the trap of sex before marriage.

I wanted us to get to marriage pure. We also believed in the biblical principle of “no sex before marriage”. So to those dating and believe in no sex before marriage, it’s possible. Cheers.”