“I spend two nights a week in Daniel’s room and two nights in Ty’s room” – Woman who lives with husband and boyfriend in same house shares benefits of polyamory

An American woman, Jennifer Martin, has revealed that she lives happily with her husband, Daniel, and her boyfriend, Ty, in the same house.

The 35-year-old resident of Virginia, USA, and her 36-year-old husband tied the knot in 2008 and soon welcomed two children. However, in 2015, the couple opened their marriage to accommodate multiple partners.

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They decided to fully embrace polyamory before the COVID-19 pandemic when they invited Ty, aged 33, to live in their home and split the rent.

They lived together in a rented apartment for four years, with each of them contributing to the household expenses amid escalating housing costs.

Jennifer, Daniel, and Ty collectively navigate their financial responsibilities, with Ty contributing $700 towards the monthly rent of $1,537. Groceries are covered by Jennifer and Daniel, while Ty pays for utilities and Wi-Fi.

Ty has also developed a close bond with Jennifer and Daniel’s children and occasionally assists with their personal expenses.

Professionally, Jennifer works as a freelance editor, Daniel serves as a private school teacher, and Ty holds the position of a bank manager.

Their combined annual income of approximately $155,000 has not only facilitated their shared living arrangement but also enabled them to save towards buying a house.

The trio recently achieved a significant milestone by purchasing a four-bedroom, three-bathroom home for $325,000 in December last year.

Speaking with The Post, Jennifer said,

“I definitely don’t think we would have been able to buy a house without Ty.

I don’t know almost anyone my own age in Richmond who owns a home, and of those that did, they were in their mid or late 30s before they did.”

In their current house, Jennifer spends two nights each week in Daniel’s bedroom and two nights in Ty’s bedroom. She said she plans to maintain this arrangement when they move to their new house next month.

“I know other polyamorous people who believe each poly person should have their own bedroom but since we have kids, that extra space is a luxury,” Jennifer stated.

“Instead, I switch beds between Ty’s room and Daniel’s room every two nights, and I have a basket that I carry from room to room with my nighttime essentials like my face wash, night cream, night guard and the book I’m reading … I try to make it as fair as possible for sleeping arrangements between Ty and Daniel.”

The mother of two further explained that both Ty and Daniel are also seeing other people.

“Daniel has a serious nonbinary partner he sees once a week, while Ty has a long-distance partner in Pittsburgh and occasionally hooks up and dates other people locally,” Jenifer said. “I have two more casual relationships as well, with a woman and a man who both also date each other.”

“We’re really happy, we get along great, and my kids are thriving with three partners,” Jennifer told The Post, adding that it’s been a boon to more than just her bank account.