Paying attention to the boy-child

A very disturbing video was sent to me some days back.

It has to do with a pastor who was discovered to be molesting young boys in a community in Delta State. His ‘man-handlers’ claimed he had succeeded in sexually abusing about 30 boys. But on interrogation, the pastor confessed that he had only ‘touched’ about 20 boys.

Immediately after viewing that video, I put down my phone, changed clothes and headed out on a visit to a family that is dear to me.

The video brought back to memory an incident that took place a few days earlier.

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I found a young girl (whose family is known to me) roaming the entrance of my house and I demanded to know why she was wondering about instead of going home as she had just left my house. She told me that her brother (also a teenager) sent her out because a pastor came to pray for (or preach to) him.

I nodded but a question lingered on my mind.

What kind of prayer or preaching is that which could not benefit all siblings and why does it only happen when their parents are out of the house?

So, my mission on that day was a social evangelism of sorts!

I asked to see the young boy for a few minutes.

His fidgety disposition (when I raised the issue) convinced me that my words had hit a nerve.

The crux of my message to him was that his anus was a no-go area. And the realness of HIV/AIDS which research shows has higher chances of happening with gay sex.

I concluded by making it clear that regardless of whatever economic challenges that could tempt one into considering the unthinkable, the mess that could be the lot of one’s mental and physical health was often not worth all the material trappings!

At this point, I have something to say to the homosexuals out there.

I am not here to preach sexuality to anybody but can you be your gay respectfully?

I believe you can live your gay life without sexually exploiting every vulnerable young boy that crosses paths with you.

It’s narcissistic.

It’s evil.

You offend humanity and God with that.

The vulnerability of anybody does not mean assent or invitation to touch their body.

You are desecrating their being by doing that!

Despite the fact that countless researches have shown that homosexual men are prone to promiscuity, I want to believe that homosexuality is not a licence to sexual impropriety, a lack of self-discipline and that of personal cum sexual boundaries.

There are many ways to disrespect or despise humanity and the sexual abuse of an underage person tops the list!

If your sexuality is such that any young boy that comes your way risks being exploited sexually, then your issue is no longer a reality of living your sexual truth but a sickness of the mind.

One of the most important campaigns that the LGBT (queer) community should be carrying out among their members is that which centres on sexual propriety.

Being gay is not a licence to not respect the innocence of the young and vulnerable boys that cross paths with you.

Live your gay life but with fellow adults who understand that reality.

Leave vulnerable young boys out of it.

You are damaging them.

You are endangering their health.

There are certain traumas that take a lifetime to heal and that’s the experience you would be giving to anybody that is roped into a reality they are not mentally prepared to live.

I am also calling on parents and well-meaning individuals to pay more ttention to the care of the boy-child. We have become so busy with the girl-child that we forget the boy-child is also at risk of many social ills.