December is one month many people look forward to. For some, it is the reality that Christmas is only a few weeks away. For others, it can be a time of the year filled with mixed feelings, depending on their expectations for the festive period.
The last few years have been terrifying and an unpredictable time for many families around the world. Perhaps, this would be the first Christmas many people would spend with their extended families.
Whether you are a new couple or you have been together for several years, it is not unusual to be anxious, especially if you are planning to compensate for the emotions of the past few years. The fear and expectations that come with preparing for Christmas, either deliberate or not, can create unnecessary tension that can have a massive impact on the celebration.
Anxiety over obligations
A couple can be anxious about Christmas for different reasons. For the man, it could be the financial implication of the celebration, especially with the current inflation rate. That will certainly have an impact on a family’s budget if they are to have an impressive Christmas. It may also be the pressure from his obligation to support other family members who may be struggling to put food on their table every Christmas and how he will be able to accomplish his usual kindness and generosity during these difficult times. For another man, it is the cultural norm and the obligation of meeting the needs of his in-laws at Christmas and the pressure that can impose on him.
Anxiety over social norms
Christmas is the season for celebration. It could be the Christmas party organised at work, which can trigger social anxiety if you or your spouse are not accustomed to going out and staying out late with colleagues. Christmas parties may sound like a clever idea to many, but they can be a horrifying experience for some who may feel pressured to attend them due to the fear of being branded anti-social and non-conformist by their employers. Also, the cost of attending other social events at Christmas may not be easy to decline, such as a marriage within the family or among friends which can mount up considering the cost of buying the chosen materials popularly known as the ‘aso ebi’ which can be expensive. These put many people under undue pressure.
Anxiety over loneliness
Christmas is a period many couples spend with their families and friends. For couples who live apart in different countries due to work or family commitments, it can be a very lonely time of the year especially if they are in the diaspora where Christmas day is the quietest day of the year. The feeling of loneliness can make a man or woman feel anxious about the season if there is nothing to look forward to.
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